Friday, October 05, 2007


So just how much space is enough space? Or more to the point, how much space is too much space?

There's a seriously fine line in relationships between enough space and too much space. I don't, nor do I ever, EVER want to be smothered in a relationship. I like space, I like other people, and I really, really, really value my alone time.

At the same time, it's nice to know I'm needed. It would be really nice to have a cute message waiting on my answering machine, or a phone call before bed or even a slight sign that I haven't been forgotten. I've heard that after six months (eep!) or any extended period of time in a relationship that you can never expect things to stay the same as they were in the beginning.

The thing that I will never understand, is that it's not as if our feelings for each other (fingers crossed) have why should the contact?

Shouldn't it be a natural response to make more and more contact with someone, to spend more time with them as you grow closer?

At what point is it okay to be frustrated? At what point is it no longer worth the effort?

Thursday, October 04, 2007

Fresh Starts

So about 2 months ago I completely deleted everything on my blog...and am now somewhat regretting this decision.

Sometimes it's just good to start over from scratch. We do it with homework, with blogs, baking, and so many other seemingly unimportant aspects of our lives. What about the so-called important ones? Like relationships.

Why can't we just say, "do over" and just return to that start of everything? We know exactly what we want to see happen, the mistakes we made, and what we'd do to fix them. Is it possible to find someone whose willing to completely forget and erase everything that happened in the past, say, six months, and go back to the beginning?

Life should have a 'delete' button. We could reach for it and go back as if it had never happened.

Unfortunatly, for now, we can't change what's already happened. It's done. You can only learn from what's already happened and try not to make the same mistakes the next time.

But what happens when things are changed, permenantly? To the relationship that may be doomed, can you simply say, "well, we just won't do things this way next time..."

Should I try this? Or aim for a "do over"?